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Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Boy and girl get married, and live happily ever after. The end.

Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Too bad it’s not quite so simple, not quite so straightforward. With relationships come joy, sorrow, comfort, confusion, security, rejection, love, and heartache. While it would be great if you could just be given a few rules and guidelines to make your relationships with the opposite sex uncomplicated and undemanding, it is not all that realistic. Relationships are great, but they are not always simple and comfortable. But that doesn’t make it any less worth it. Maybe it makes it more worth it!

This isn’t going to be a sex education course. In the next few sections you are not going to learn about your changing body, menstruation, how to put a condom on a guy, or how far is too far. But as we deal with certain issues, maybe it will help you to figure out how to make the wisest decision possible for whatever situation you are in.

….let’s do this!

Actually, no. Stop. Before you read any further, you need to go back and read the sections on body image, self-worth, and decision-making. It would be most beneficial for you to grasp those concepts before you explore relationships.

Here’s why: if you don’t understand your own self-worth…if you don’t identify and comprehend it…you will look for that worth elsewhere. One of those places you may look to find that worth is in a relationship: looking for someone to supply you with value and significance. That is neither fair to you nor the guy because that should not be the role he plays in your life, and you will be disappointed when he cannot do it. Also, you won’t get the respect you deserve from a guy if you don’t already have respect for yourself!

That being said, it is important for you to take hold of the truth that you are valuable. And remember: valuable things need to be treated with great care!

…okay. Now let’s do this!

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